The Ultimate Tool for Survivor’s Resilience and Self-Growth.

Not everyone knows the struggle that a traumatized person is going through, recovering after years of narcissistic abuse, whether parental or in personal relationships, or recovering after traumatic incidents or "everything everywhere all at once."

People see the top of the iceberg. They may judge – why haven’t you still finished your education, found a job, or made career progress?

Trauma survivors, like everyone else, have dreams, longings, desires, and goals, although it’s all shattered into pieces after being exposed to prolonged trauma. Trauma causes people to spiral into PTSD or depression or have problems managing their nervous system. In short, it means shutting down, procrastinating, having panic attacks or anxiety, insomnia, and many more other physical or mental health problems, sometimes related to psychosomatics.

This is the health part… what about dreaming and goal achieving a.k.a. manifesting ?

Does trauma affect this process? Yes.

Trauma survivors may start projects but wouldn't finish them. They may have a goal but loose an impulse on the way to it – almost like giving up in advance, struggling with learned helplessness, but not willingly.

This is a pattern that requires someone else’s support in holding you.

I'm also here today to say it’s not your fault. Even if your dreams and plans didn’t come through, you're not lazy, “stupid”, or incapable. It’s all a trauma response, the consequences of trauma. Trust me as a person who experienced that – I know what I’m talking about.

What is the solution?

First, therapy.

Most people think that therapy is the most common answer. In therapy, you rewrite patterns and heal, which is necessary, no doubt! The most common conventional therapies are the ones where you talk about “what’s troubling you” and/or take pharmaceuticals.

But trauma may live beneath the surface, in the subconscious mind, trapped in the body… so speaking about your trauma may not be available to you, as you don’t remember any traumas. In short, you may live a "normal life," and your conscious mind will block out all the memories about your traumatic events, as your rational mind will always prioritize survival instinct over thriving.

By talking about your traumatic experiences, you activate them, and they immediately go into processing, which you might not be ready for. Also, how does that even help you to achieve your career, business, or educational goals?

Believe me, it will not. So, here comes: coaching.

After I was opened to the truth about my past, therapy has become my full-time job.

But 4 years later, it finally hit me - therapy is like soul surgery - it MIGHT be necessary for some, for others, it may be a MUST thing to do, but for others perhaps, a healing connection to self-expression and building up resilience and will-power to achieving desires/wishes/goals might be a better option. Although, of course, I believe in the work in parallel therapy and coaching, since this is something I do for years. because I am the “lucky one” that requires both.

Also, jus to let you know - when it comes to therapy, in my own experience, somatic therapy has the best tools for traumatized people - when your trauma re-living manifests itself through the body, this is where you get the tools you need for processing trauma, and that’s how you heal.

Therapy is like rebuilding a foundation which might be necessary if you aim to build a skyscraper of your success.

But coaching is about walls, rood and design.

As a person who has been in therapy for almost five years, I promise you, your broken wings still require “TO FLY” - make ACTION.

You can heal forever, but at some point, you need to start flying, and at first, you might need support.

This is where trauma-informed coaching comes in.

Sometimes things are better, sometimes they are worse, but here we need to follow the progress.

We need to train your willpower, help yourself hold accountability, along with gentle and supportive heart-based direction. Healing is great, but any healing, even physical body related one, at some point will require intro to “exercising”. In case of exposure to trauma and abuse - to hold your desires, hold your intention, vision, goal and direction.

How to self-diagnose in 1 minute whether you need it?

Ask yourself: Do I have big dreams, and do I believe they will never come true?

This might be a trauma response.

Honestly, not all people are even aware they have trauma even though they endured a lot, as I mentioned all due to the surviving mode – so the advice is to follow the gut feeling even if your brain sabotages realizations. I did 5 years ago - although I was doubting this a lot…

What are your solutions if you aware of your traumas or perhaps you have been exposed to prolonged abuse as an adult or have been exposed to Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) ?

Support, support, support.

Don’t do it alone. Like you wouldn’t try walking on a broken leg for a while - get support.

Don’t torture yourself by doing it alone, failing, and drawing further into self-blame and hatred. I did that - please, don’t.

Support is temporary. It’s not forever.

I’m here for you. I trust in you. You can do it.

No matter what you've been through, you can be successful and resilient!

I help you with resiliency.

It’s time for your phoenix rising moment. ✨