Path to Individualization: Two Key Insights You Need To Know
To be unique and stand out from the crowd is the greatest bravery one can show.
Why? Even though it sounds very simple, it can be a scary thing to do. After all, people are social creatures, and it is imprinted in our DNA that survival is only guaranteed if you are part of the herd. So, we must be like everyone else, live in the same socially approved way.
But times change, as we are entering the era of individualization.
We already don’t want to live the same way our ancestors did… but we haven’t really figured out the “new ways” yet.
Interestingly, the nuance here is that there are no manuals and’ “how-to” guides that match everyone's desires and complexity - it is unique for each person.
Also, we have not completely freed ourselves from our past ways, and most of the time, we are still controlled by fear and our survival instincts. This is why something as simple as being individualistic and striving for differentiatio, can seem like a scary thing to do. As a person who grew up in a collectivist society, I would know a lot about that.
Today, I want to talk about the first step and 2 key insights on your way to individualization.
First step is the Fear Liberation.
We are only human, and we have fears. WE. ALL. HAVE. FEARS.
For those who are aware of their fears - consciously, and for those who are “never afraid of anything” - subconsciously.
We fear many things—losing connection with a person dear to our hearts, looking foolish, being judged, following through with our passions and desires, facing financial struggles… among many other things.
But fear and progress never go hand in hand.
And at some point, you just have to decide whether you want to be led by your ambition, dreams, and a vision of your higher potential, or if you want to play it safe.
One thing to understand: No matter what fear promises you—you are not safe anyway.
It promises you safety, and that plays well for our survival instincts.
We want safety, both physical and mental. We want to stay the way we are at some level, and we want things to remain as they are—for one reason: survival (safety 4ever).
Have you ever felt like you don't want to go to sleep, leave for a trip, or part with your partner for a few days?
Everything is change, even in such examples. We wake up a little different. We come back after travel different. We feel a change in our personal relationships after a short period of separation. Not to mention times where we take leaps of faith into becoming new versions of ourselves or strive for differentiation from the life of our ancestry line or the society we live in.
But in the end, we feel good about it, and that's a fact.
Progress is uncomfortable. But does it make us better? Yes. Is it easy for us to follow that progress? No.
Because we fear losing—ourselves, relationships, our public image, financial stability…and life altogether, although subconsciously.
Which brings us to a 2 thing you need to understand: All fears, in the end, are connected to one major fear: the fear of death, which is a symbol of transformation.
So… No matter how convincing your fear is and how much it promises you—one thing remains the same.
Everything is temporary anyway—a day cycle, a relationship, even life.
So do we really have to keep on living, followed by our fears, afraid of taking that step forward toward the things we desire, our ambitions, or dreams? Cause no matter how hard we try to keep ourselves safe, we can't!
We can't manipulate time or natural processes. This is the law we are all united with as people and as part of nature!
Everything comes to an end, so what are we holding on to is an illusion, that is keeping us safe, but small and unhappy.
So, what should you do? How to befriend fear, because I promise you, fighting it will not help you—fear is natural.
It is a part of your body and your nervous system. Although it is up to us how much power to give it.
What do you need to understand on your way to dealing with fear?
Stay tuned for more. ♡